I’ve been a little quiet on the home front these days. Lots of good stuff going on 🙂
For today’s post, I’m pulling out an oldie but goodie which I’d only issued to my subscribers (ie – not publicly on my blog).
But I’ve been around enough “I need to lose weight” talk these days, that I thought it was worth while to pull it out of the archives and “re-share”.
“I NEED to lose weight”
I’d place my money on this ranking as one of the most frequently spoken phrases in the English language.
After all, most of us approach weight loss as if it’s this magical panacea that will somehow fix every single aspect of our lives.
Today, I’m playing devil’s advocate the debunking our myths around weight loss.
1. I’ll be so much happier if I lose weight.
I’m calling bullshit on this one (pardon my French!). Obsessing over calories, forcing yourself to the gym when all you really want to do is lie on the couch DOES NOT produce happiness. Neither does backing down from social events for fear of falling off your meal plan. Isolation, disengagement, and fear are a few more suitable adjectives that come to mind. It is much more likely that a focus on losing weight will result in misery than happiness.
2. I’ll be so easy going, go with the flow if I lose weight.
This one is almost laughable because it couldn’t be further from the truth. In reality, you’ll become a bat shit crazy control freak.
A spontaneous girls’ nights out? NO WAY, all those appetizers and wine!
Dinner at 8pm? FAT CHANCE, food eaten after 7:30pm is stored as fat.
We all have “that friend” who’s a pain in the ass because of her freaky food rules. But for some reason, we think that we’ll be different – we’ll lighten up our control once we lose the weight. The reality is, if and when we do lose the weight, we obsess even more to keep it off because we’re doubly scared of “failing” and gaining it all back.
3. I’ll be healthier if I lose weight.
Oh…the lies behind this statement. If I had my way, Healthy at Every Size would be compulsory reading for high school students. We’ve been led to believe that having “fat” and being overweight is unhealthy. But study after study proves differently. In fact, the source of these original claims is shady to say the least. And where does mental health fit into all of this? I’d like to see a study done on the mental health of folks who are under vs over weight.
4. I’ll be more confident if I lose weight.
WRONG! For many of the reasons I’ve already stated, you’re much more likely to live in constant fear of gaining it back and being judged for failing. Fear does not breed confidence. I can tell you first hand that I have more confidence in the body I have now (which just happens to be bigger) than I EVER had at my lowest weight. Ending the diet and body image battle has allowed me to find my authentic self – what really fires me up and what I have to offer the world. My confidence is based on the inner me…not some outside manifestation of my insecurities.
5. I’ll be more attractive if I lose weight.
Ay yi yi. This one is hard. Everywhere we look, we’re bombarded by images of society’s ideal body. And for 99.9% of the population to achieve that ideal, it means losing weight – and usually not an insignificant amount.
Sure, we’re seeing small shifts in the media (Dove’s real beauty campaign, France’s ban on “waif” models), but we’re nowhere near where we need to be.
So what is my rebuttal to this thought pattern? It’s a call to redefine YOUR definition of beauty. Beauty is found in all different shapes and sizes. We accept this as fact in all other areas of our lives, so why not our bodies?
Who said that beauty is only defined by body shape? What about our personality? Ask a group of men what is most attractive about a women and the vast majority will say confidence or sense of humour.
I like to think of physical beauty (as defined by society) as “surface” beauty. If there isn’t a deeper beauty within to back it up, then it’s all just smoke and mirrors.
So next time you start telling yourself that you’ll be better off when you lose weight – pull out this guide and play devil’s advocate on yourself. After all, we really have been fed a load of BS when it comes to weight!